I can see how eHarmony can work for some people. However, it did not work for me in the three months I was on there for probably the following reasons.

1) A lot of matches (over 90%) were from New York City. If you lived in the city, I don't know why you would want to commute to NJ because I can imagine your pool in the city is good enough to begin with. 2) Most people are just on there and not paying. Even if you initiate communication with them, there is no guarantee they will respond. 3) The one person I met on a date lived close to me... but there was just no chemistry. 4) I joined during the summer months. People are always more social in summer. Heck, if I had a choice, I would meet someone in the real world rather than the internet.

All in all, I joined eHarmony because I had to move to New Jersey after finishing graduate school. Since I hardly knew anyone, I figured it was worth a shot to see if something would work out.

Oh, and another thing. This is something that I learned during my brief stint at eHarmony. It feel that it is quite difficult to project your true personality over the internet without the body language.

The bottom line is that I am ready to meet someone while pursuing an activity I love.

Keep the faith my friends. Just because you were not matched on eharmony does not mean that there is something wrong with you. If that were the case, I should be wallowing in self-pity.

There is someone for everyone. It's just plain statistics. Happy Hunting :)

- S (30 year old from NJ)