I have been on eharmony for 5 months. I have gone out on a number of dates, but have not found my "soulmate," but I am optimistic. The women I met were attractive, interesting, and had agreable personalties. In conversations I've had on dates, the women usually admit that their other matches are attractive, but they, like me, are looking for that which transcends mere physical appearance. Eharmony does use "appearance" as one of their matching criteria. In short, I'm trying to be delicate here, those who complain about not being matched with their "physical match", might want to indulge in some honest self-reflection. I am a good-looking man and, with few exceptions, have been matched with good-looking women. I almost did not join eharmony because my buddy, who's a very nice guy actually but somewhat out of shape, kept complaining that the women on eharmnony were "unnatractive or fat." I feel that people must have reasonable expectations. If you don't have experience meeting physically attractive people off the internet, don't think eharmony is going to do it for you. If, however, you would like to find a compatible match with a person you find interesting and fun, eharmony, I think, is a good place to start.