It sounds to me like a number of the reviewers for eHarmony (and possibly other dating sites) have rather unrealistic expectations. If you were really as attractive and fit as you claim, would you really need the internet to find someone? Not to mention that if you're stressing looks above all else, eHarmony isn't right for you in the first place as it's meant to match you based on other things that make "true love" possible in the first place.

I was a subscriber three years ago. I had a lot of matches but I would rather not date someone who's really religious, is too lazy to fill out their profile or has a poor grasp of the English language/spelling. I would say 90% of the matches I got fell into those categories in one way or another. Even when they did send a request for communication, those rarely got past the beginning stages. I had my profile up for three months and met only one person in that time. We talked on the phone every night for four months and finally met. He was a great guy (had a few issues but who doesn't?) and we ended up "dating" for almost a year. Even though we lived about 200 miles apart, we got together whenever we could. It got to a point where he just stopped calling and I never did find out why as we always seemed to have a great time.

I suppose the site works to some degree, which is why I gave it three stars. However, they really need to revamp their matching system to match subscribers with subscribers (although for them, how would they even get people to subscribe unless they thought they had some real matches?).

Just my two cents.