I went on Match becuase I live in a rural area outside of LA, where meeting women is impossible. Im considered good looking, good job, house, in shape and all that. Never married no kids. In the first month I went out on about 10 different dates. So it did work for me as far as getting to meet women. However, I had chemistry with only one of them. We still talk and e-mail, but have not seen each other again.

Most of them that I went on a first date with, I would not even give a second look at if I crossed paths with them in the real world (or a first look for that matter). I think these ordinary women get such a huge ego boost from all the attention they get that they think their Jessica Alba all of a sudden. Then they start making up unrealistic expectations, and/or they are onto someone more interesting to them. Alot of them are divorced and have kids, and they are being real picky. Most guys would not want to raise some other dudes kids. Especially if she's just a plain ole Jane. But the rules of the real world do not apply to the internet dating world.

What really rankled me is that you would think that you hit it off on the date, and then your e-mails and phone calls are ignored after. Not Mathes fault, just the nature of the people who are on it. It can mess with your self confidence. The big mistake I made was doing the wining and dining thing, and spending gobs of money. Meet for coffee or a cocktail first. Something less than $10. They all sound real nice and upbeat on the phone and e-mail. Then when you meet in person, it's like talking to a toad.

The scam artists are really easy to spot. They generally wink at you first, and never check out your profile. Then they have the most generic cliche profiles. They like the beach and go all the time, but they live in Iowa. Had one from Vegas and no mention of a favorite eatery or casino. If they e-mail, they immediatley want you to contact them on their Yahoo account.

I've learned that the profiles on Match are probably closer to who they would like to be as a person, not who they really are. I just skim them now. 90% of them say the same thing (I like the beach, the outdoors, quiet cozy evenings cuddling up, and blah blah blah). My subscription runs out in a month and a half. I'm not gonna take anyone else to seriously on it, or go out of my way to meet someone unless, on the off chance that they really knock my socks off.

My suggestion is to save your money. Learn how to interact with the opposite sex in the real world. The 10 dates I went on, I consider as training for the real world. If you have to try it, do it for only a month. You'll know by then if it's going to work for you.