can't rate it, not a member, just had to add my two cents to this drival.

If U dislike the Christian attitude of the place - has your method been working for you? Obviously not! You're on eharmony looking for the perfect match. What is worse 1) a gay basher or 2) the person who is bashing the gay basher. its a toss up. if you don't like something, its your choice, but This site, eHarmony, is set up a certain way because they have good reason for why they do things their way its what is working 4 them. Don't you recall when you got a job working at XYZ Company an employee is required to learn & practice their policy and procedure manual, now aren't you? So if eHarmony wants to exclude certain individuals that is their choice &their business; + those of you who circumvent the system for your own advantage - that is why it is not working 4 you.

another thing, in your years of dating - how much money have you spent on all your dates /in the case of the female - the clothing, the perfume, the hairdo? THOUSANDS!! if you have to pay up to $200. for a perfect match on eHarmony - why complain or if you don't want to play by the rules - live with the failure.

about those who are obese; ugly; too old; too young; -- on & on. it takes all kinds in this old world & it would certainly be a very depressing place if all of us were alike now wouldn't it? There are some men who love fat women as well as women who love fat men. Its all in your preference. If someone is shutting you down before you get a chance to meet them, then perhaps you ought to PRAY about that before you enter into this deal on eHarmony. Prayer does work & being a Christian is really the thing that will help you understand the workings of a committed relationship anyways.

I used to pray "God if this place is not for me, you will close the door tight and I will not be able to enter in here, but if this is where I can accelerate in my career, please open the door for me and help me to find favor with my interviewers" - when I was praying about getting hired on a certain job. And God always protected me from taking the wrong job in all the years I worked I continually upgraded myself in better career choices so I guess God does open the right doors because He is all seeing/all knowing.

Now before you bash me because I am a Christian - perhaps we ought to revert back to my second paragraph. Don't bash me for my beliefs I don't bash you for yours. if we would quit finding things to bash anyone else about... then this world would be a wonderful place. If you don't like a thing, U can go elsewhere - there is lots of room on this world - find your corner - perhaps your match will find you there - or you can pay up and wait your turn.

all you people who look only at the outside of a person, could that be why you are missing your match & if by chance you get lucky & get that woman~half your age & she looks like Marilyn reincarnated, it will soon be some other fellow's dream date too & she might go on down the road to whoever offers her a better deal, can U handle that? If you turn your dog loose and he doesn't come home -you better find a better meal for the next dog! It takes commitment &work to make a relationship last. Communication &compromise are vital too. If you don't give 200% & your mate doesn't give 200% then chance of failure is 100%. If someone ugly and fat makes you happy, just quit trying to convince your buddies that you're just using her until you find a better woman or vice versa. For behind every fat person is a skinny person just waiting to have a reason to come out.

I always felt like if a person had money & good looks then they should always be looking over their shoulder wondering who their friends really were or if their friend liked them for their money only. If a woman has been married before & is poor, has excess baggage =children? really now?! Ok on to my thought - if a woman has a few children & a man needs a good woman to keep him company & provide a stable home w/ love & affection & give him stepchildren that will grow up to be somebody and make him proud as their stepfather - my word - what is wrong with that? See a challenge - meet it!! Your role as a parent or stepparent is to guide that youth into something spectacular! (whether you are the real gene donor or not!) He or She could be The next President or world leader, or Fortune 500 Company Executive.

My husband told me when we met - "You have so much and I have nothing" I said "See how God works, he knew I was miserable with all my worldly goods because I had no one to share them with so He sent me You! We can balance each other out" and that is just what we do!!

If thru life you have looked at a persons looks and said No way, I am too proud to be stuck with that, then perhaps that is why you are missing your perfect match, you forgot the important thing. Any human is changeable if they so will it. Perhaps a poverty stricken mother of two children could turn into Marilyn if you spend your love and a few bucks on her. give it a rest guys, and gals. look past the outward appearance. Cultivate the things in your mate that you would like to have the mate become. Its about finding someone compatible &then you work together to create within each other a person you can be totally enslaved to.

lets accept our looks and get on with the program of life and then perhaps start doing something better for this earth before we do leave a nasty planet for our grandchildren. well that's my two cents. now don't bash me, I am just trying to help you here.