I fell for the ad- matching you with a 29 demensional personality test. I thought it would be a great way to meet men who were not just interested in my looks. The first misleading thing is that a majority of your matches are no longer members and you cannot communicate with them- so these are not matches. In my opinion the matching based on the "proven" test is a complete lie. I will factor out all the obese men and give you the example to prove my opinion. I was matched with a mentally retarded man. No joke, you could tell by his photo, and discussion of living in a group home. I have a doctorate and a well paying job, how is this a match? I inquired about the legality of dating a retarded adult and how I was suited for him. Eharmony said the let any adult join and would not answer about what made this a match. So, do not join the system is just a marketing come on- no truth to it at all. Learn from my mistake, if you have to pay before seeing photos that is you clue something is wrong. And women, I read the data on eharmony and the demographics are 70% women and 30% men, not good. Avoid it! I still get matches and have been off the site for months, so others are being misled. Avoid this site.