I joined eHarmony for 8 months: watch out. I decided that all it means is that you have some similarities in terms of temperament so it's easy to talk to the Matches. It does not mean that they're ready, healthy, honest, or good people. The advertisements are very misleading. And you should know that not all people that show up as "Matches" are actually available. My friend Diane started to register with eHarmony back in 2003. She decided she wasn't ready yet so she didn't finish the questionnaire. Then in 2007 I helped her finish it, she gave her credit card info + submitted it. Immediately there were 3 men who had requested contact with her. I squinted at the screen thinking this can't be true since she'd just joined seconds before. Then I saw that their requests were dated 2003. So her name had been sent to them before she had even joined and those poor guys were thinking that she was not interested in them or couldn't be bothered to respond. This is unethical if you ask me. I dated 4 men before I quit. The last one told me that I was everything that he wanted; was why he'd joined eHarmony, but that he couldn't handle it. The guy before shared with me on the second date that he had been a minister and in the last year of his marriage had regularly driven 3 hours to the big city every month for a year to spend time with hookers. Another problem with the system is that it sets you up with a false sense of intimacy; you've already shared so much with them that you feel like you're somewhat close so you don't take the necessary time to really get to know them. A friend of mine moved out of state to marry her Match only to find out that he'd lied about things, he went into rages, and he believed that women's liberation was a communist plot to destroy the family. They are now divorced. Beware. I think it's B.S.