I'm writing this review basically to respond to the males on this site who feel/believe that women have it made on Match.com. Here's my story while I lived in Spokane, WA.

First 1 was a cutie I would have never thought would have been interested in me. He actually lived in Seattle, we e-mailed then made the big leap. 1st phone call! During the call he told me how he loved asian women, preferred women with a 2-to-1 chest to waist ratio (my profile stated a few xtra pounds), told a story about his dog watching him have sex then attempted to initiate phone sex. I just hung up the phone. I must say he later sent an apologetic e-mail...I was over it!

2nd was a guy several years younger than me (I would have preferred older). I was 26 at the time, BTW. He was a good conversationalist, didn't bring up sex immediatley, had an interesting job and we made it to phone calls and even texting during work. Then once it was time for our first meeting he flaked.

I moved on to guy #3 and that didn't work out. We just didn't have a connection...PERIOD. We both acknowledged that, then he attempted to initiate sex with me.

Back to guy #2. He apologizes, he was nervous, etc. So we set-up another meeting...he didn't want to call it a date...HELLO MY 1ST CLUE! We lived about 20 minutes away by car and agreed to meet in the downtown area of Spokane, we'd have a few drinks together worst, right? Wrong! When we talked about an hour prior to our meeting he began to insist meeting at my home. I had already let it slip that I lived in the downtown area, so he reasoned it would be close and he was doing all the traveling. I refused but for the next hour he text me..YOUR HOUSE and/or GIVE ME YOUR ADDRESS. So I simply blocked him and started ignoring his cell calls.

In between these dates the guys who contacted me were all about sex, a recently released felon, and a guy I think who had...2 kids in Idaho, 1 in Montana and 2 in Oregon...in short a bunch of kids,k? He also bragged that every woman he sexed fell in love with him. *sigh* So I changed my profile and specifically stated in words..."If you're looking for quick sex, I'm not the girl for you, men with several children by different women, and felons need not apply"

That leads to guy #4...He was convicted of a felony as a teenager and had one child. Get comfy for this story. He was great online and on the phone. I looked forward to meeting him. We did, my profile states "a few xtra pounds" I had up several pics and stated that I was a smoker. His stated that he was athletic and went to the gym daily. The man I met was only "going to the gym daily" if there was also a McDonald's buffet inside. He was bordering obese, decent face and receding hairline. He was a very decent guy though. We had plenty of fun and played pool. Had more the 2 drinks I agreed to meet for and walked home a little tipsy but thinking I'd just met a decent guy. He later told me that he moving 3 hours away for school soon, I was actually sad. We talked later on and I told him I'd like to just be friends. Later he insisted on a 2nd outing. He insisted he come me up at my home. Well we got to the bowling alley and he wanted to have a drink or two first. I started to show him pics from my Spain trip and he seemed very disinterested, so I tried turning the conversation to his bowling, still quiet and distant. So I lit a cigarette. He started in on me about how smoking is bad for you, isn't sexy, unlady like...do I need to go on. Well I had smoked on our first date, stated that I'm a smoker on my profile, and already stated I just wanted to be friends. I listened to his tirade, he stormed off saying he was going to the bathroom. Then well he just NEVER CAME BACK. I was incredibly embarrassed. I wrote him an e-mail when I got home. Calm...asking y? He said because he didn't like smokers, thought it would be funny and didn't think I would never have sex with anyway. Well I couldn't argue with that last part could I?

You could imagine that that was my last date/contact on Match. Was it match? Was it me? It may have been my profile. Perhaps it was too assertive? But what I blame most is the city. Blacks made up 2.1% of the city, Hispanic 3%. Do I have a problem dating white males? Not at all, but most who approached me simply wanted to experiment. Spokane offers no diversity. When there is NO diversity it can lead to ignorance about other races. That's my opinion anyways.

Oh I forgot one more guy. Also from Idaho, much older, more mature. We met for drinks. Had 2 admit I didn't feel a connection and left. He wanted to talk a little more in his car first. Why not? Well he forced his tongue down my throat (with his hand on my head) and tried to fondle me while holding one of my arms down. Thankfully, humans only have 2 arms. I used my free arm to open the passenger door spilled out of the car. Grabbed my purse and walked away. Nothing major, just creepy. I should have NEVER gotten into that car in the first place.

Here's the kicker I would try match.com again in a different city. Truthfully, except for the "fondler", I didn't meet better quality men on my own. At least the guys from Match seemed to state their motives and wishes outright. Other guys I met? Well they seemed to use the fact that we had friends in common to show me they were trustworthy, etc. In truth at the end of the day no guy I met anywhere in Spokane WA was interested in a monogamous relationship with me. That fact used to make me pretty sad, but oh well that's life right?

So all you great guys who think average girls get their pick of the litter on Match think twice. I got a few dates, but none us found what we were really looking for. No matter the guys age, race or income everything came down to one thing. Oh I should state my profile stated "I am looking for a relationship, otherwise I would be on AFF."