I joined Match several months ago, and I have lots of opinions about it. I also took the time to read through some of these reviews on here which triggered many thoughts.

Just a little background so you know who is writing here: I am young-25, no marriages, kids, and minimal baggage. Independent, sweet, caring.. etc. [Not to mention very pretty]

The first few weeks of joining Match was exciting because it was a new experience. But I had to go through AT LEAST 20 winks per day (?) and 10-15 messages per day. It became overwhelming/exhausting/tedious. Not to mention that I couldn't remember any conversations.

I had to read the terrible "generic messages" with lengthy information and zero stimulation. Sometimes the same messages were sent to me two or three times. I also had to sift through the "hey wat up" messages. I had to squint at the dark photos taken of a naked torso in the bathroom mirror. Yuck.

Men of ALL ages were contacting me. Yes older than my father. That only adds to the time it takes to delete winks and messages and check profiles. I was thinking - I NEED A SECRETARY FOR THIS!!

I also had to block out non-buddies on my AIM. Men were IM'ing me because they figured out that my buddy-name was the same as my match-name. Some men even somehow found my college facebook account. Hmm. One man told me how ugly my dress was after I told him I didn't want to communicate with him anymore.

Now I am aware that I have to put in the time and effort if I want to meet someone. Which I did. Over the course of the last few months I have emailed many men. Many. It is absolutely impossible to reply to all messages without the secretary. I have talked to some on the phone. I have gone on dates with at least 8 men.

Some relationships ended after an email revealing some type of deal breaker such as "I don't like to travel." One relationship ended after speaking on the phone and hearing approximately 100 yawns from the person and 1 burp.. and acting appalled that I am not into CSI Miami.

The "public-place" dates we not too bad.. I made sure I was interested first. I had a great time with Date #1 but the chemistry wasn't there. Date #2 looked nothing like his picture so from the first minute of the date I was thinking uh-oh. I went out with Date #3 twice and had a good time until he started sending me very invasive text messages demanding to know where I was. He ultimately told me that he was too insecure and he wasn't making enough money for me. What?!?

After being on match for a little while- I realized that match wasn't able to fulfill what I am looking for. I don't want 100 matches and 100 different communications going on. I want one person who is able to make me feel like the only person in the world. I don't want 100 emails to answer per night. I want one special conversation. I don't want to drive to a date feeling nervous and unsure. I want to be excited and happy to be seeing that one person. And although for some Match may lead to that path- I really think its rare.

For girls- its like fighting through a jungle of emails. It's hard to make it through withough tossing in the towel. It is not even necessarily an ego boost- I feel like the target of desperation and that is NOT what a woman wants.

I could most likely write all day- but I don't want to take over here. Please respond if you care to comment.