First of all... there are some really bitter men on here reviewing eHarmony. I've had over 200 matches just within my state since I joined a few months ago. I'm not communicating with two men.

At first I noticed that most of the matches were closing right away... I also noticed the first few matches I choose to communicate with did not respond. Probably because their accounts were closed.

But this is what I did next. I started closing all my matches (I get about six a day)unless I really liked their profile I just closed it and put every reason under the sun for closing it. Talk about response! From those matches closed about two or three will "ask" to be reopened. And I go from there.

Ladies you have to work it the same way men do... *Close most if not all your matches and use a different reason besides "other" for closing. *Never initiate communication. If the match is an open account, let them contact you. That will save you a lot of time. *Don't take any of this personally... they are after all, just men. *If you've read these reviews online you'll hear a lot of moaning and whining about how the women don't look good enough, or they are sluts, or they are too fat, blah blah blah. Just accept the fact that a lot of angry, self loathing men, bitter men are on eHarmony. *The same complaints men have mentioned here I could make about the men on eHarmony. They are fat, short, have kids, look 10 years older, etc. etc.

Final piece of advice, cancel your subscription once you've paid. That way they can't autorenew!