Can I give eHarmony no stars? I had an abysmal experience on eHarmony. I don't know how people are "matched up," but it's certainly not by mutual interest or potential attraction level. I'm a very attractive woman, and yet I was "matched" with men who (sorry! I know this is vain!) I would never look twice at. Compatibility is important, but so is physical compatibility. I've dated "below" my attractiveness rung, and it just didn't work. Also, seems like every single person who was sent to me had at least one of my "dealbusters" clearly elucidated in my profiles. No dogs (allergic), no camping, no sports nuts, and no skiers. And yet, hola! What did I get? People who were enthusiastic about the very things that I couldn't get into. I specified: no children, please. I got men who wanted to play Brady Bunch.

Basically, people need to be compatible to a degree, but they also need to be opposite in many other areas. I'm a very responsible, on-task person who is looking for a free spirit to temper my Type A personality. And what did I get? More Type A's thrown my way.

Basically, save your money, ladies. If you want a nice average guy who's nothin' special, like the kind there are on eHarmony, you can find them if you go to enough church socials. But for someone who is a little avant garde, edgy and urban (such as myself), it was a bore.