I am currently an eharmony member. I have been on and off since 2004 (because I entered into committed relationships using eharmony). I have also tried yahoo and match.com. I always seem to return to eharmony. I think that there is something to eharmony's matching system. Since 2004 I have had 3 relationships through eharmony and the personality "click" was far superior than the meat market of match. I too have experienced some of the frustrating aspects of online dating and dating in general. But frankly you will get that on any dating site or dating period. I don't take what other members do or say personally because with online dating just like in the real world, you will find rude, deceitful or oblivious people. Dating itself is frustrating. I have to say that the matching system seems to work so much so that I continue to be the best of friends with an ex whom I would not have met in my lifetime any other way. I think part of my success with online dating is that I also do a lot of screening of my matches so that by the time I get to meeting the match, they have been through another level of screening and end up being good quality individuals. No major complaints here.