Wow it is nice to know that I am not the only one who thinks this is not right. First I found that men are getting far more matches then the women. When my membership ended they had a perfect match who wants to communicate, he has sent the questions, but he will not get a response because I am not a member anymore. How rude to that guy! He thinks he is being ignored when I cannot respond. I have written three (3) letters to them. The first response offered me a membership at half price when I tried to activate I couldn't and when I tried to respond to the email - it bounced back no longer used. Plus insipid advice on what I must be doing wrong. I sent one letter with this web site and suggested that they read this so that they can offer better service. I have to think that they have also jumped on the avarice band wagon. My girlfriend had the same problem I did. I thought maybe it was just the men our age. I also found that supposedly you can only have 40 matches in your file. I did not like closing people because it is rude! And why cannot you have a better choice of responses or be able to make your own for closes - the way it is set up is rude and hurtful. It would be nice if people wanted to get know each other. oh well asi es la vida. Have fun to those it is working for and the others go do things you like to do.