For some reason, I still remain hopeful with this site. I've been on and off with my membership for almost 3 yrs, (yes, 3 yrs) and when I'm off, I get this overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. When my membership is on, I get a certain feeling of peace in the fact that an active search is in place and maybe there is a perfect, wonderful match out there that will be doled my way at anytime. I feel most of the matches are of higher caliber with eHarmony mainly because it is more expensive than other relationship sites and also I figure anyone who takes hours (if not days) to complete the million question questionnaire has to be somewhat serious about finding "true love". The Bars and church mixers are your true crap shoots. Talk about the misfits! You have absolutely NO idea the background of the persons you are meeting. At least with eHarmony, you hope you have some idea (if honesty has taken place). I think eHarmony does the weeding out for me. I would have never found the time or energy to physically meet 500+ men the old conventional way. I have tried Match.com and to tell you the truth it was a little creepy knowing you were just out there plastered where anyone and everyone could take a peek. I found out that I was "viewed" several times during the hours of 12 midnight and 4 AM with no request to communicate. Creepy.---- I could be way off the mark about eH but considering myself a "veteran" at this, I still have confidence that someday my prince will come. It only takes ONE unbelievable match....remembering "you have to kiss a lot of frogs"........