Oh Tim......I do so agree and do so like hearing the addiction scenario you presented from a man's point of view! I see the same faces constantly online and doing my research of which one to join I saw that many men are one 3,4,5, or even more sites at one time! I was "victim" to one of those addicts...we dated for almost a year and he just could not stay off the sites. It drove us apart or maybe it just pointed out him inability to have a real relationship. As for Lava....i tried it briefly and the numbers were not there, the quality was not there.