Lavalife as far as I'm concerned is for the not so serious dating crowd who maybe likes the idea of finding Ms or Mr Right, but keeps a nice safe distance through email conversation or by sending useless smiles. I joined Lavalife after seperating from my husband of 10 years. It was an interesting experience, but I think if you're serious about meeting the right person, you'll have to pay and join a professional service. Otherwise you're merely screwing the pooch with Lava!