I have read with great interest many of the reviews here. I find myself agreeing with many of the points my sisters have posted and ironically, quite a few of the posts by you guys. As a widowed Baby Boomer, who is reasonably attractive, educated and self supporting, I would like to add my $.02.

1. I don't "get" winks. I just do not understand the purpose. I have responded to these winks with short, friendly responses to get nothing. If you are not interested, that's fine. But why wink? Am I missing something here?

2. I hope we can all agree that the puffing up on these profiles is done by both men and women. I don't bother lying or posting old pictures because if somebody isn't interested in the real me it won't work anyway. But it is clear that not everybody shares this opinion. You would be amazed by the times that I have shown up to find the man about ten years older than he represented. Men who describe themselves as "about average" can be 50-60 lbs overweight. One man said he went to the gym 5x a week. I am fairly certain the last time he went to the gym was when he joined. I am not looking for a perfect physical specimen so please don't misrepresent.

3. The money thing. I do not need a rich man to take care of me. But I also need to be absolutely sure that he can take care of himself and his own obligations. I don't think that is unreasonable. Men, you should be able to expect the same. You are not a meal ticket and either am I.

4. I must take exception to the man who wrote that normal weight for a woman of 5'5" is 120 lbs. Sorry. While that is within the normal range it is at the low end and few adult women are going to fit into this. But this attitude shows how the disconnect between expectations happens. A woman who is 5'5" and 140 describes herself as "about average". And she is. If the man believes that the low end of normal is about average, we did not have a meeting of the minds.

5. I do not agree to meet anybody unless I have an inkling that we might be compatible for the long term. I also do not make dates and not show up or cancel at the last minute. If I make the date, I am interested. If I don't....

6. I refuse to believe some of the men who have been on here bragging about their conquests. It is not logical to me that women are falling all over themselves in large numbers to hop in bed based on some guy's profile and lines. Occassionally, maybe. In large numbers, doubt it. Especially when it flys in the face of the majority of experiences that the men seem to be having. Sorry, just don't believe it. I believe that most people just want to meet somebody to love and who loves them. Maybe I am wrong.

7. I get a decent number of winks and emails, considering my age. But I am not flooded with them. That's okay, I prefer quality over quantity and most of them seem to be very nice, even if we are not compatible.

8. I know for a fact that there are inactive profiles on there just based on people I know.

Match is just another service. I have had NO luck at all with eharmony and am always surprised when somebody says they met people that way. Nobody I know has ever had actual contact with anybody they met through eharmony.