John: if a woman keeps herself in shape, it’s not unreasonable for her to seek a man with that same value. One of the reasons why active, attractive women in their 40's (like me) are now attracted to 30 year olds (not in their 20’s since that would be creepy! Like some of you, most of us aren’t quite there yet) is because they want someone who still cares about the way they look; its hard to find single men in their 40's that stay active so that they have control of their weight (not to mention “other” common issues related to many men in their 40’s) I think if men cared more about what it takes to stay attractive to a woman (and vice-versa of course) then you would not see so many women now attracted to younger men. Its time for men to start being concerned about what a woman needs so she can stay attracted to her mate. It seems a lot of men put their needs (which are based on a stereotype long gone!) firt.

Yes John, my response is almost identical to yours. Is that not ok with you? If it isn’t, then this is a social problem that needs to be evaluated. Simply, my attitude may not work for most "middle aged" men because they want to continue living in a world were the “double standard” benefits (and has always benefited) them.