Kate: if a man keeps himself in shape, its not unreasonable for him to seek a women with that same value. One of the reasons why active men in their 40's (like me) chase after 20-30 year old's (I don't) is because they want someone who still cares about the way they look; its hard to find single women in their 40's that stay active so that they have control of their weight. I think if women cared more about what it takes to stay attractive to a man (and vice-versa of course) then you would not see so many men chasing after younger women. Its time for women to start being concerned about what a man needs to stay attracted to his mate. It seems a lot of women put his needs secondary to other things that she needs to do; which should not be done.