According to the reviews posted here by men, the women on "Match" have great advantage. But my experience hasn't been stellar. I've never had a "sea" of messages, but I ALWAYS respond to anyone who contacts me by e-mail. Being on "Match" isn't easy and it would be horribly rude to ignore someone who takes the time to write a message.

I am most often contacted by men who have nothing in common with me. They like my photos, but I guess it never occurs to them that there's a reason why I look the way I do. I am a very active person and I say so in great detail in my profile---which they obviously don't read. I've never been contacted by a guy who likes a vigorous hike.

As far as talking on the phone is concerned, that has never worked for me. It's a waste of time, and I'd rather just meet. The guys I've spoken to on the phone have been absolutely certain that we were going to be a perfect match---after two conversations! What is that about? That's scary and a jinx for sure!

I've initiated contact with a few guys and met six different men for coffee. In each instance, I drove to the area where they live and not only paid my own tab, but paid for theirs as well. I don't want anyone to feel like they've been taken.

I post recent photos, including full body pics. I'm not gorgeous, but I have nothing to hide. I am honest in my profile and I don't use a long list of adjectives to describe myself. No one is all of those things. Besides, if you really are compassionate, handsome, healthy, stable, honest, understanding, dependable, funny, active, handy, hard-working, loyal, secure, and a good listener -- then how is it that you're divorced?

Don't tell us you're handsome......post your great photo and let it stand. Don't tell me you're funny......say something funny in your profile and let the reader decide. . . . and pleeeeeze don't post three photos of your motorcycle and one of you wearing sunglasses and a beanie.