Pardon me if this is redundant, but I didn't want to go through 1000+ posts to relate my -dreadful- experience with eHarmony. Thank goodness, I'm only out $60 (one month). And, yes, I did get "the phone call" toward the end of my subscription re: "need to be on two to three months if you expect to be successful." No, thanks! One month was plenty!

I'd always wondered why it was that so many of my matches simply "sat" and never did anything, i.e., never tried to connect, never "closed" me, etc. Also, I wondered why the majority of the 10-15 women I contacted never responded. I rather assumed it was because (a) I was wrong when I assumed that, due to the expense of the site, people would be more committed to the process, and/or (b) eH had turned into a gigantic party game for the well-heeled!

Little did I know the "big secret!" By chance, they happened to match me up with a local attorney I already knew. No picture, but "single," "57," "attorney" living in an exclusive lakeside community (of less than 600 population), was a dead giveaway. SO, I called and asked her about it! She HAD been a member of eHarmony, but had terminated her membership nearly a year before! SO - answers that question about the "no-shows, no-activity(s)!" They're "recycling" people - and a lot of those "matches" simply aren't around any longer to respond to you! Guess we "seeking someones" get what we deserve, huh? Seems like out-and-out "fraud" to me...