If you're looking at this 'before' you pay anything to eharmony, count yourself extremely fortunate. If you've already paid, get out now. Right now!!

Eharmony is a scam. Their whole focus is to get you interested, torture you with carrots that never pan out, and keep you investing your money (at an extremely high monthly rate relative to other dating sites)... and in the end, you'll be very fortunate to meet anyone, much less the mate of your dreams.

The free dating sites are far superior to eharmony.