I have been on Jdate for almost two months now. So far, I have nothing bad to report about Jdate itself. I have had excellent communication with both the phone and e-mail support lines with questions that I have had.

However, as far as dates go...

When I first put my profile up, I instantly got instant messaged by a 47-year-old male even before my essay was approved. That really scared me and urked me, so I ignored it and blocked my "online" status permanently. Nothing against 40-year-olds, but I am only looking for someone between 30 and 42 right now. I did not like that he IM'd me before my profile went up. It shows a lack of judgment and consideration on his part.

I continued to get several e-mails from men who were in their late 40's. Again, nothing against them personally, but they obviously didn't read my profil preferences. Now, if they said, "I see that you're interested in 30 to 40 year olds, but would you consider a 46-year-old man?" I might consider them.

That being said, a few weeks later I received an e-mail from a 45-year-old man whose profile I really liked and was really funny. I told him that I liked his profile,and then he sent back an e-mail in all caps, "WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT WITH ME THIS WEEKEND?"

This, quite frankly, freaked me out. I refused him, and he sent me two nasty e-mails stating that I was too fat for him and to not contact him again, even though he contacted me first.

That being said, to the "poster" who stated that not listing your weight is dishonest: My exact weight, poundage wise, is no one's business. Try walking in my shoes and being rejected and not asked out and discriminated against because of my weight. Not right. Shallow, too. I am a person, not a weight.

I also had my eye on a couple of guys, and I "hot listed" them. One wrote me back. We e-mailed each other several times and talked on the phone. We had two wonderful dates, one of which ended up being quite affectionate.

Then he "dumped" me. I was heartbroken. He said that he was afraid of being hurt later and hurting me later due to his previous divorce and another previous relationship. Absolutely broke my heart. Everything was there, romantically and intellectually. We corresponded for a week afterwards, and then he wouldn't talk with me.

Broke my heart...