So, I thought I'd email just to balance things out a bit. I joined eharmony in mid-February and actually met someone I've been dating, around the beginning of May.

When I first signed up, they sent me many matches. Then throughout March, the pickings were very slim. I was getting a ton of rejections and hardly any new matches coming in. I started to feel like an absolute troll. If I had read this site at that time, I would have been right with you in writing that eharmony sucks. But then I decided to take action. Since the guys did not seem to be taking any initiative in contacting me, I started communicating by sending out initial questions to about 20 guys, anyone that seemed remotely nice and normal. I figured, if they weren't exactly what I was looking for, at least they'd be blind-date dating practice.

I ended up going out with 4 guys. Oh and there were some "gems," let me assure you. Like what's with the guys making a date with you at the beginning of the week for Saturday at 7 for example, then not calling until 2 hours before the date, and then saying "What are you up to?" Then the normal women says, "I thought we were going to a movie?" And the guy says, "Oh, ok, well I didn't have other plans anyway." Yeah, that's a way to make a lady feel special, guys. So, guys, even though you don't smoke, beat women, drink heavily, and have a job, doesn't mean you're still not a rude weirdo. Please take a hard look at yourself before complaining that the women don't like you!

Anyway, I've been seeing the guy I met from eharmony for about 2 months now. I don't think either of us saw fireworks on that first date. We just respected one another, saw lots of common interests, liked each other, and have grown to like each other more and more.

Good luck all and I do feel for those who are not getting money back from eharmony, that WOULD suck. My subscription is up soon, I hope they don't recharge me automatically. If they do, I'll be back here bitching about it!