This is by far the worst dating site out there. You are given NO control over who your matches might be -- and they have very few members.

No matter how much you "relax" your settings to receive matches, I feel that there are NOT enough members on the site, so it's all a waste of time. If you make your settings specific to your needs, they send matches that have nothing to do with your specific choices. They control who they send or not send(eHarmony has your money by then, and you can't prove a thing!), and the only matches they might send are paid members (I think that these are "few"). When you complain to them for stealing your money, they send you email emmediately, but you can tell that it's made up of "justifications" and maybe suggestions to try, but none of these work, and all of these, they send to EVERY OTHER MEMBER who is bound to complain as well.

In general, eHarmony is a SCAM! Do not waste your money!