Ah Elliot..the compassionate rabbi from Laredo Texas who had the chutzpah to tell me that I wasn't sincere...!!! Keep in mind that my dad was hospitalized with a seizure related to a stroke the day before we were to meet in NYC. I had the presence of mind to call Elliot from a phone booth outside the emergency room the day before and express my regrets. This rabbi closed communication with me when he returned to Texas. Sooo...I did the only logical thing I called him last night. This so-called man of g-d informed me that he didn think I was sincere because I had to cancel. I said that was most un-rabbi-like. He then stated that he is "a man first". (No...I said to myself..you're a first class jerk). So much for those 29 levels of compatibility!!!!!! I also wonder why the options we can choose for the FINAL MESSAGE all sound like whining/groveling/pleading!!! I cannot stand the choices such as "oh..if you only got to know me I'm sure you'd change your mind". What is up with that and what ever happened to self-respect? I've written the eharmony "team" many times about this and they always assure me that they're working on revising the options.