I used the AsiaFriendFinder version of the service. It's a niche product, so you might find what you are looking for not available elsewhere.

Compared to the dismal responses I currently have with Match.com, I fared only a little bit better here in less time, but that doesn't say a whole lot. I did receive several winks, but all these women were from China, rather than domestically. I'm Asian American, by the way, so that might have been part of the attraction. The site really didn't cater to me whatsoever, however.

For fun, I browsed through the "men seeking women" section and found to no surprise, a lot of white guys on there, so they clearly have what some of us jokingly refer to as "yellow fever." Some of the profiles are a little pathetic, because some are older lonely men (50 years and over) looking for companionship. There is that stereotype where guys think Asian women are very accommodating and loyal like some Geisha girl and not as stuck up as white women are. That's new to me. None of the Asian women I know are anything like what the men on the site perceive them to be.

One of the things that I do like about the service is that you know who puts you on their "hot list." So even if they don't initially contact you, you can at least break the ice yourself if choose to do so. You also know what level members are on: standard/silver/gold. It makes it easy to know who the paying members are. However, gold members have priority over viewing new members, so they essentially can also snatch away some potential mate before you get the chance. Silver members have to wait three days to see new profiles. The profile sections themselves are streamlined, and you don't have to wait as long to have your info/photos approved compared to other sites. But that's also the danger; it's not properly screened out. You have the option of adding voice/video if you choose. The homepage also tells you who the most popular members are, who are new, who are online, and so forth.

One of my friends, who is Caucasian, did well for himself. He contacted a couple of people and after some email and phone conversation, he struck up a couple of friendships that he's building on. The women he's met are working professionals and well-educated. But I tend to think he is the exception when it comes to the dating game. White guys can get ANYONE they want and it wouldn't be a big deal, yet it never works the other way around, to my chagrin. I fall under the the category of not getting who I want because I'm not white and/or I'm not their "own" kind. It's even more ridiculous I can't even seem to date fellow Asians because the ladies think white guys are "better."

It is also refreshing to see some non-Asian women on there, so there is a tendency to feel more wanted compared to the mainstream sites. However, I really, really take that with a grain of salt. The service seems to be ripe for corruption. A lot of the profiles are too good to be true. The pictures look way too professional, seductive, and glamorous like they had been filched off some porn site (the cleaner, classier, cheesecake-type images, that is!). And sure enough, after some cursory searching, I found some identical photos on those adult sites, the only difference is that they were uncropped and had the name of the originating website on it. Some of the said profiles also try to entice certain members by claiming to be compassionate and caring, god-fearing and looking for a person that shares those values. Nice try. I'd believe it more if these photos were shot in domestic or casual settings as opposed to some professional studio setting. I highly doubt any woman out there who is seeking a serious relationship would expose herself like this. I am not going to be a part of their con if they think they are going to go femme fatale on me and rob me out of house and home. Watch out for the usual multiple profiles!

After all is said and done, however, I only recommend this site with a lot reservations. It's less expensive than other places, but it's like paying for a date that never shows up. And you might end up falling head over heels for people that don't even exist if you're not careful.