For the added expense and laborious task of filling out so many questions, you may feel so very hopeful upon joining. The promise of a new approach is so very appealing. For all the money and hard work, you would hope that only the serious-minded would be bothering with this process. But I think it is unwise to have any raised hopes. You may be better off saving your time and money. Initially, I received an overwhelming number of potential matches. Initially, everyone sounded so promising. However, when I continued with the process beyond the canned answer options, my hopefulness diminished. Once futher into the process of open communication, most of the matches could barely put two words together without making spelling and grammar mistakes. Without the help of canned answers these candidates proved to be more than inarticulate; many were complete fakes. I then realized that most of these matches were categorized as "flexible matches," out of the realm of what would seem logical. As I revised my settings to reflect more reasonable choices, suddenly my matches dwindled to just about zero. So much for flexibility. There was really no filter whatsoever for honesty and integrity. This process offers no assurances and in my experience little hope.

If you happen to be a woman, you know that the odds are stacked against you from the start. Eharmony offers no better odds for women than any other site. I did meet one man through the process. He was halfway decent, and that quickly becomes exceptional. But he was 2 hours away. Clearly that distance made no sense for him, when he could have so many options closer. He revealed how many matches he was receiving; seven times more than I was. Clearly, he could have the pick of the litter. Ordinary men can choose among extraordinary women. Men receive so many more matches, that women should be aware of these odds. Most men joining I think really are just looking for casual sexual encounters, not serious partnerships. So what else is new? This site is not any better than any other. It just costs more and takes more time. For that, I don't think it is worth the effort. For those individuals for whom this site has worked, kudos to you. I have instead become too discouraged to continue.