I hate to be negative, however, I have to agree with many of the negative comments posted on this site. I am an attractive, well educated, professionally employed, 45 yr old woman. I have found dating in my 40's to be a little more complicated than it was 20 yrs ago. It is not so easy to meet single men even though I live in a large metropolitan area. I finally decided to try the internet dating "thing". I first tried match.com. I found many of the men to be looking for just a little fun rather than a committed relationship. I also found way too many married men on this site. I then decided to try eharmony buying into their marketing campaign of "compatibility-based" matching. I also liked the idea that my photo wasn't posted like a billboard for everyone to "shop". My experience with eharmony was very similar to many that have posted on here. I only received a few matches at a time and many of them were not active members, thus no communication. Even though I live in a very large metropolitan area I received several matches from all over the country that were often thousands of miles away. There was no men that matched with me in all of the Houston metropolitan area???...only later to receive several matches from men that were from Houston and had been members for a while. That just doesn't make sense. I understand the concept of not matching solely on physical attraction, however I am 5'10" and received several matches with men that were 5'6"-5'8". I know it is probably just a "girl thing" but I would at least like to look "eye-to-eye" with my man. And, last but not least on my complaint list is that it was almost impossible to stop my membership. I would cancel my membership only to find that it was re-activated. Calling their customer service doesn't help much either. I am only posting this to offer my experience to those who are thinking about joining eharmony. I will say that I work with a woman who is getting married at the end of this month to a wonderful man that she met on eharmony so it can and does work. I just think anyone joining should be aware of the "downside" of this site. Just my own experience...