I do not live in the USA, So stright off, I found there were not matches for me (even though the site says there are alot of singles in my area). I widen my area to include "anywhere" to see what I would get. I got ALOT of men who just wanted to go on and on and on about their failing marriage and how horible there divore is...sorry but I was not paying to use my time as pychologist.

Anyhow, I did get weeped off my feet by a man who claimed to be in Afganistan. He wrote and called me daily for 6 months stright. He made numerous claims to visit me... and even claimed I was the "one".

I told him I would beleive it when I see him. I aslo let him know I thought he was just amusing himslef while he was away from home, and the fondness he hads for his ex wife and 2 children leads me to beleive he is not divorced...anyhow. I told him I enjoyed takin to him and encouraged him to keep in contact. He told me one day he was leaving on an expected leave and he was so certain I was "the one" he bought a ring and was comming to "show me" who he really was.

A week after his flight was to arrive (with no word form him)I found his ex's number on the net, and text her a friendly letter telling her our plans and that I was worried as a bomb did go off and kill several people the morning he was leaving Kandahar.

Needless to say after leaveing several unreturned messages on his phone over the course of severa days asking him to tell me he was ok at least,and he just changed in mind...within minutes of emailing his ex? wife he called me. Seems the phone number I called was sitting on her kitchen table and ??? how did she reach himso fast to have him call me???? hmmmmmm....

He said he was hit and recoperating and souded "freaked out" asked me not to call that number again with some lame excuses said he would see me in a few days...Last I herd form him.

Verdict: Married!!

Anyhow. Eharmony or free dating services, they are all the same...paying are no screend. Buyer be are.

PS My other friend I met on E-harmony has sent 4 girls money for plane tickets that picked up the money and left him alone waiting at te airport. He is currently making arrangement to send another woman money.

For those who have found love. Great. I hope you are happy and health.

I feel eharmony is in it for the right reasons, surely as a business, and as a venue for people to meet. But, keepin mind they cannot really screen there paying customers.

So as always, Buyer beware, and I wish seekers happiness and te business good fortune.