When I decided to start dating again, first I tried to hang out where other singles were. Ok, clubs & bars but of course I don't think it's the place to meet "quality" singles. Then I placed an ad on a few sites including yahoo personals. I met a lot of people and had LOTS of first dates. I had LOTS of BAD first dates. I almost gave up and decided I was meant to be single. Then I decided I would make ONE last effort. I would put very specific search criteria & send an instant message to the first person that was online that met 100% of my criteria. I did that and at first, I didn't think he was my type. Ok, I thought he was probably looking for someone better than me. After all, I had dated quite a few losers and was losing hope. I went ahead and sent him an IM and we chatted all afternoon and met for dinner that night. We had so much in common and a year later, we became engaged. We were married six months ago and while neither of us is perfect, we are perfect for each other. I did meet a lot of guys that seemed bitter, angry, arrogant, shallow, desperate, & cheap. I think meeting people on yahoo personals was the best of all the services I used. Some were expensive and gave NO results.