I liked the idea of creating a profile that would identify compatible matches based on various personality factors. That is why I chose to try eHarmony. After spending a great deal of time trying to answer the questions honestly I completed them, filled out the introductory info, and uploaded some photos.

I was extremely disappointed at the superficiality of the compatability of the matches it sent me. I provided sincere, heartfelt, genuine responses to the questions which are used to generate the much vaunted personality profile and was rewarded with very few matches. I found that the four step communications process encourages people to form preconceived notions based on the most superficial of principles.

I signed up for a three month membership. Over the course of that time I received about fifty some matches. A little more than half of those apparently found me immediately incompatible. Out of the remainder I found about eighty percent of those incompatible. That left about five I pursued communication with. I was never able to complete step three with any of these prospects before they either stopped responding without bothering to close the match or finally did close the match after being "nudged" two weeks later.

At this point I decided to look over the Dimensions advice newsletters for some inspiration and was instead confronted with the following article which I found highly offensive.

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From issue 55 of the Dimensions newsletter, from item number six, called "Underestimating a personality or behavioral problem.", of the eHarmony Dating Advice column entitled "7 Fatal Flaws of Faulty Mate Selection" I discovered that Dr. Warren casually encourages users to exclude those suffering from depression and other emotional illnesses from consideration as a compatible partner characterizing emotional illness as a “fatal flaw” to a serious long term relationship. His statements are not only insensitive but prejudicial and bigoted. It is irresponsible of a therapist who presents himself as an authority to so callously express such a viewpoint with so casual a disregard for the sensibilities of human nature.

I had a great deal of trouble trying to get a response from eHarmony to my query regarding this article in a timely manner and eventually gave up hope. I did not renew at the end of the the three month period. I would not recommend this approach.