I joined eHarmony last month and was forwarded several matches and most of them were nowhere near who I would approach by myself. I did luck out and started emails to a few women that started out great. Well I did meet 3 of them face to face and they seem to want to "start the engine" but I call or email them a few days later and no response. I mean this is plain rude as far as I'm concerned. But after reading most of these posts I see that this is the norm. I have noticed that now I'm getting matches that are in the next state or even country in my case. I have closed about 88 out of 116 matches. 3 matches out of 116 total. Man I can do better in a dive bare for that matter, but then with my luck I'd would most likely run into the closed matches.