If you want to try eHarmony, don't let any of these people talk you out of it, or into it. Do what YOU want. They are a business, and they do want to take your money, but they do provide a service, so that's reasonable. And you will get matches, and some of them may not be people that you see yourself with, and some of them will be. Whoever is picking these matches can't possibly know exactly what you want or need because they don't know you. But they can give you options, which is their job and the rest is up to you. I have used several online dating services and I can say that eHarmony has done something for ME that the other ones haven't-for the most part they have matched me with people that I have been at least interested in getting to know. I have had a lot of matches and communicated with quite a few guys, and while it hasn't exactly worked out how I wanted, most of them have been good, interesting and intelligent people. Anyone can put a profile on match.com and not fill out half the information and get matches, but a person who takes the time to fill out the eHarmony questionnaire (and believe me, it takes a long time) is at least serious about meeting someone they are compatible with, or they wouldn't bother. You have to do the work of deciding if you want to communicate with someone, or not, but I really believe you will get better choices from eHarmony. But that has to be up to you.