Steve, I'm with you regarding the Annas of the world.

I've been an eH subscriber on and off during the past two years. My matches total 300. I went all the way to Open Communication with about ten especially-promising ones, and of the two guys I met, I dated one for about five months total and the other for nine months. Nice, quality guys.

I just read a blurb online -- someone stated that eH has "spoiled" him/her in that it allows the opportunity to get to know someone quite well before meeting. That is so true! (Think of it: you know NOTHING about that cute stranger sitting up at the bar. By the time I've talked with an eH match on the phone, I've had their stats, a good idea of their past relationship issues, hopes/dreams, interests, personal space needs, whether they have/want children, and much more) Yes, it can be tedious, yes, it's a little pricey, but it's also interesting, worthwhile, and kinda fun!

Life is too short to be critical and fault-finding. Smile, give things a try, and use all the pretty-color crayons as much as you can. And, incidentally, that's EXACTLY how you'll attract the healthiest kind of partner.