I am confused on how Eharmony actually works. I was very disappointed with the site and the matches. For the most part each time I got a match it was closed before I even opened the email. I got to the third round with one match and needed to close as his "hates" pretty much matched me. I hardly got any matches and cancelled my membership as soon as I could. I never understood the matching system. You would think these matches would give you an opportunity since according to Eharmony you have at least something in common but no- they were closed before the introductory stage. I would get matched with people in other states- which was fine with me but not with match once again it was closed quicker than I could open the email to say I had the match.