I have never actually met anyone off eharmony yet, though I have talked to some interesting ladies. I have been a member since July, and I am thinking about canceling my membership at the end of this month, which is when it expires again.

I will say, though, that I have only communicated with very few of the matches I have been matched with. Most never respond, others close me out after one or two communications, and some put me on hold (giving as their reason: "I am taking a break from my search for a while, but may be interested in communicating in the future." Okay, yeah, you take that break, and I'll be waiting around, paying membership fees until you get back.).

I am currently emailing back and forth with a girl I was matched up with. She seems really great, but she is several states away from me (figures, huh?). Oh well, I'm going to keep at it, and maybe something will come from it. Hey, it wouldn't be the first time the net matched up a great couple, taking the man from one state and the woman from another state over a hundred miles away. This woman seems really interested in me, too, and really seems like a good match for me. I only wish that she could have been here in Ohio, like so many other women that closed me out or ignored me *grumbles*. Oh well.

All together, I like the way eharmony is set up. I like it that people can't see your profile unless the site matches you up. A lot of people have a lot of bad things to say about eharmony, and I think they need to remember that the site is only as good as its members. They seem to have an intricate system they use to match people, but that system relies on people being honest about themselves. Also, it isn't eharmony's fault if numerous matches close you out, put you on hold, or ignore you. They can't be held responsible for the actions of their members.

One thing that I don't care for on eharmony, however, is the fact that you cannot give a height range for your matches (i.e. you can't say "I only want to be matched with people who are between 5'0" and 6'0," or something like that). I am a short guy (5'7"), and I seem to get a good number of matches who are 5'10," 5'11," 6'0," and so on. Now, if those tall women are willing to give it a shot, then I am too, but I can't say that I feel too romantic about having to stand on my tiptoes to kiss my girlfriend. But once again, if they're willing to try to look beyond the height thing, then I will try as well.

Another thing I don't really like is the fact that I am getting matched up with women who want to have kids. See, after much thought and consideration, I have decided that I probably don't want to have my own kids. I'm all about being an uncle, but I don't really want a family of my own. Some people might look down on me for that, but that is another debate for another time.

Now, this partially goes back to the fact that you cannot blame eharmony for the actions of its members, because in their "About Me" section, under "Want Kids?" these women answered "no." But, when sending those muliple choice questions, I usually choose to send the one that says, "If you were to marry, how many children would be ideal?" Several of them answered "About 2," "Three or more," or "Three or four." Now, I don't know if they put "no" as an answer to the "Want Kids" question because they want to have kids someday, but not anytime soon; or if they didn't answer that part of their profile at all, and the system automatically put no as an answer, or what, but I got matched with them. I am sure they are great women, but any woman that wants to have several kids is obviously not compatible with me. Though, just the other day, I got matched with a woman who answered the "Want Kids" question with "Yes."

In all, if you're going to use eharmony, I think you need to keep an open mind. We all have our idea of what our "type" is; I am no exception. But, try to think outside that type a little. I think that if you are going to be successful with the site, you have to open your mind up and not close people out just because they don't have right hair color, the right job, the right hobbies, etc.