I'm a proponent of eharmony. But, I am feeling the need to vent some frustrations, and I think these are more general than a fault of eharmony. I think eharmony is the best dating site out there....I am scared that I have read atleast 2 or 3 posts supporting mail order brides...wow.

Anyway, this one is for my ladies, no mail order bride supporting here. How dare you refer to women as "model quality" like you go the grocery store looking for one of a certain quality. Gross, puke.

Anyway, I am an attractive woman, not even 30 yet. I'm never married, never had any kids, a couple of degrees. But I'm really quite modest I swear. My pictures are good but I also did not post my best pictures...as I am not really trying to sell myself on my appearance..we get enough of that in real life.

So. I am tired of older, fatter, men thinking that I would really want to go out with them just because they have a career (and in some cases, not even close). If a guy has a great personality and other qualities - fine. But if he has been not taking care of himself for years, having money means nothing to me. It really doesn't mean much to me anyway.

On the flipside...I am meeting a lot of divorced men with kids. I have tried to keep an open mind. But I have not worked my butt off to get matched with someone who is looking to me for financial support because he made mistakes and has to start over now. I have sympathy,but I am looking for a man, a solid man with his life together. At least...enough to buy me dinner on the first date.

someone who has their life similiarly together as myself...and at least within 5 years of my age. Divorce...not a big deal if its well enough in the past, even kids...if they are cute :)....even older, if they take care of themself.

But please, guys, dont expect to walk off with me if you just dont have that much to offer. its not fair. I dont have unrealistic expectations and either should you. I have worked to hard for this!

PS Stop lying and hiding things you dont like about yourself! Post your picture...and dont try to hide bad teeth, baldness, etc. Do you not think this all comes out in the first meeting!? I really hate this type of behavior ESPECIALLY when you have said you picked me cause I was attractive....what gives!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!? Just be yourself from the start PLEASE. I would be a lot more accepting that way.