My experience with Lavalife has been over 10 years, first with the 'phone (originally 'casual encounters') service, and then the web site. I've found that in the 'phone service, Lavalife appears to have double standards in their acceptance of profiles, one for women (who seem to get away with almost anything) and one for men (who seem to have to be 'very' guarded in their wording). Lavalife's basis of rejection of a male profile is total crap, and insulting. And the way they allow users to send winks and other garbage to burn up the paying members time, is a discrace. As far as the web site is concerned, all I got were 'smiles' from young chicks who were obviously planted to entice the paying male members to send emails to them, and burn up their credits. A bad taste from both services, But I think the 'phone service is the biggest ripoff.