I really believed the advertisements. I really, really wanted to believe. I've received over 100 matches since joining in April.

I've read most of the reviews here and agree with some of points: 1. post a picture; 2. be realistic about whom you might attract; 3. be honest about yourself and your looks and 4. be patient.

If you don't think you're attractive, work on it instead of complaining about how shallow men are. THEY ARE! Men are indeed visual and face it, so are women.

I, too, close out men who do not post pictures or who wait a long time before releasing their pictures. If you don't release your picture by the second round of questions, I'm not going to continue communicating with you.

Don't ask inappropriate questions. These are from the people who feel it necessary to complain about the questions eHarmony gives you and then write the most wild questions of their own, and I paraphrase: "What world leader would you assassinate, not including Osama bin Laden, Chavez, etc. These are real questions, better than eHarmony." Totally bizarre. If you want me to continue to talk to you, try to behave like a normal human being and engage in pleasant conversation. Although I have to say that it made it easier to close this one when I received those weird questions. So maybe that was for the better.

Don't disappear. If you don't want to continue the conversation, whether on eHarmony or via email outside of eHarmony, or are no longer interested, just write a Dear Joan letter or close the communication and be done with it. Don't waste my time keeping me on hold wondering what is going on. And don't blame it on "glitches" with the eHarmony computer system -- I don't believe you.

Oh, and checking off "other" when you are closing a communication is like saying "it's not you, it's me" and women everywhere know that you really mean -- it's them.

Now, a very real complaint about eHarmony's matching system. How come I get tons of matches in NJ and CT, but almost none in Westchester? And how come two friends of mine who don't live in Westchester, get a lot of matches from there? We've even compared our profiles and answers to their questions (and yes, we are all the same age, weight and height).

And to nitpick Jarred (although I agree with lots that he has to say), so many of the male matches I received had spelling and grammar mistakes -- and some of them were teachers by profession. Go figure.