I am pretty surprised by all the bad reviews on this website since my experience on eharmony was so positive. I really liked that they only gave me a few matches at a time because it gave me time to read through the profiles I was sent and actually think about whether the person might be interesting or not. Most of the guys I was matched with weren't my type physically or had dissimilar interests. Of course, the system matches you based on your personality and goals, so maybe if I met someone who was really into dungeons and dragons or motorcycles, I might become interested in those things too because I liked their personality. I guess this is the website to use if you want to meet someone that you would get along with well and are willing to be a little more flexible on things like appearance.

I, of course, have a happy ending in that the first person I met in person is really, really well matched. We're constantly shocked at how much we have in common and how perfect we are for each other - and we NEVER would have crossed paths socially otherwise.

I did read that highly intelligent people and those who restrict the race of their matches receive far fewer - maybe open up your options a little and you'll get more.

It also totally makes sense to not let people who aren't paying for the service communicate with members. It is a business, not some altruistic venture.