A lot of guys are complaining about poor e-mailing results on these sites. I did a bit of "research" and discovered some of the reasons. First of all, the male to female ration is totally skewed in the women's favor. The sites will never tell you, but it's about 5-10 men for every woman. Second, and most important, only PAYING members can read and respond to e-mail (while anyone can post a profile for free). The percentage of paying members is 3-5%. That's it. And most of them are guys. If you send out 100 e-mails and winks, only 3-5 of the women will even be able to read your e-mail, let alone respond. The rest are not paying members, and are waiting for paying members to IM them. The ratio of men to good looking women is more like 50-100 to 1. Women who have good photos receive hundreds of e-mails a week. They won't even read most of them. They scan for the good photos of the guy, and his income, because the choice is seemingly so huge. In real life, the choice is NEVER this wide, so the net gives a false impression that you literally have thousnads of men to choose from. The net favors people who are not necessarily good looking but PHOTOGENIC. Their pics are often much better looking then they are. Anyone who's seen male and female models in real life knows that most of them look plain, nothing special in person. They look good on camera. Somebody's profile cannot give you any impression of what they're like in real life. All these profiles are designed like ad brochures, best foot forward. The success rates on net dating are EXTREMELY low. I went out with a bunch of women with whom I had nothing in common, and I wasn't particularly attracted to. Also, the sites are full of trolling perverts, especially old geezers who are trying to date yonger women. So the women often get crude, offensive e-mails from douche bags who would never approach them in real life. Women then begin to believe that all men on these sites are scum looking for easy sex with braindead bimbos. If she has a bad date with some guy off the site, and he wrote in his profile that he liked camping, and you write in your profile that you like camping, she assumes that you're just like him. Internet dating is mostly a scam designed to take advantage of lonely people.