It was sure an eye opener to find this website, and good in a sense, to see others in the same boat. I recently moved to a new city, and not knowing anyone, decided to try out a match.com membership. I was rather astonished at how poor my results were. While I dont have movie star looks, I am reasonable looking, work out religiously (I probably have a better body than 90+% of these bitches, not to mention smarter), have a good job and live in a high rise apartment with an great view. I thought it would be a good way to meet a lot of women and increase my odds over the usual methods. I thought at the least it would lead to some casual meetings even if they didnt lead to anything. After sending out dozens of winks and emails (yes I know now that winks are a waste now but I also will not spend any more of my valuable time crafting emails which wont even be acknowledged), I ended up with only a handful of winks in response, which after I replied with emails, got no response. Well not quite. I did get a long email from a beautiful Russian lady (yeah right) whose profile disappeared shortly afterward, and a few other psychos or spammers. I began to have a lot of self doubt, am I really that awful? I look around and other guys dont seem that great. I am only 5'8" though, I guess thats the killer, and not a multi-millionaire either LOL. I began to wonder if women are just more picky as they get older (I'm in my 30s) or what. I dated some good looking girls when I was younger and even used to talk and meet up with women I met online from AOL back in the 90s. Yahoo and the other online sites is just the same crap. I also changed my height to 6'2" and income 150,000+ (I had no response listed originally) and shot out several hundred winks, which helped a little bit but it was still an awful percentage. Even a lot of the dogs wouldnt respond, girls I wouldnt fathom dating in real life! So whats going on here? The hotties get overwhelmed with email and because they have so much choice, never settle for anyone, they will just keep looking for months for Mr. Nonexistent. As a result, the guys get frustrated and out of desperation lower their standards and start contacting lower tiered girls, and even ugly ones to see if they will get any kind of response. Which explains why the ugly ones wonder why a guy will contact them but not follow it up; answer: because it was random, a test, or out of frustration. So as a result, nobody wins (except only an extremely low % of the guys who were picked by the trophy girls. What does this do to dating in general? Instead of making it easier, it paradoxically makes it worse, since this just gives women an outlet to be more picky (since they are contacted much more by email than approached in everyday life). It is the same effect that the internet has had on finding a job; if a job is posted online, there will be hundreds of responses to it, as a result it becomes harder for both sides to make a match. Luckily, the % of women that use internet dating is still somewhat small, and the best way to meet women is still the old-fashioned way.