I have been on lavalife for a couple of years - off and on - mostly off. My view is that online dating - regardless of the medium 'breeds mistrust'.

I am middle aged, look pretty good for my age, earn a comfortable living and would like to meet someone about my age. The fellows my age on lavalife all seem to want trophy girls. I have met a couple of nice fellows there - but for the most part - there seem to be some real creeps. I either get young guys who want a domineering woman so that can rub their feet and who knows what else, or old mean men (Returning To - would be one of them) who within a three minute instant message session demands my backstage, sends me his, then because I did not respond immediately - accuses me of being superficial for judging him based on a photo from a magazine. Truly bizarre! He claimed he is honest and kind - but that is not honesty nor kindmness in my books.

Needless to say - it is 'brutal' and I am no longer there. Surely to goodness there is a better way - where we are not instantly judged and treated in a manner we would not like to be treated.