I'm a gay Asian man, and looking for that special connections has always been very difficult. I simply don't fit the mold of what most gay men want. And since I don't go to bars that often or clubs, where was I going to meet men that DIDN'T want to jump into the sack the minute you meet them?. So I decided to try Yahoo personals.

Well, let me tell you, talk about an ego bruiser. I wrote a very honest profile that I felt would garner some attention. It didn't work. So I decided to be bold and respond to guys that I felt would be interested in me. But I specifically sought out men that didn't mind being contacted by Asians or Pacific-Islanders. I avoided men who wanted only to date white men. I knew that many white gay men only want to be involved with other white gay men. And I don't have a problem with that. It's their choice.

But the ones that I did respond to never wrote back. I never heard a word, and I was a polite as I could be. After emailing to at least eight men, I only got one response. But I never heard another word from him.

All of the profiles I wrote to were great. They talked about meeting men for possible LTR or for friendship, etc. And that was what I was looking for as well.

But none of them wrote back. I had my photo up and I'm fairly decent-looking, not heavy or anything like that. But it could have been my age, 41, that turned off a lot of gay men.

Unfortunately, many want younger and younger guys. And if you're a minority like me, and not in your twenties or even thirties,you're just left out altogether.

So I ended up leaving Yahoo personals and will just try to meet men through family and friends. My time with Yahoo personals wasn't a good experience at all.

Maybe it was better for others. But for gay men of color like me and who are older the chances of finding that special someone on Yahoo personals is slim at best.

I wish anyone luck if they want to try that site. But it didn't work for me at all. And it made me feel as if I was the biggest gay fool in San Diego.