I have been a member of both eharmony and christian mingle in the past. I tried Eharmony because I was looking for a strong christian man whom I could marry. I ended up with a variety of matches but most of whom were too far away. I was surprised at some of the matches because I had nothing in common with them. I think that any site has its flaws and it was a fun diversion - I then tried Christian mingle and at first I would only get a first date kind of thing and it never went further than that as most of the local guys I met were wierd so I quit the whole internet dating thing for a year and then tried it again and met the most wonderful man who I am now married to. I would have to say that it wasn't luck - I truly believe that the Lord used Christian Mingle to bring us together at His perfect timing! The internet isn't for everyone but God can use anything to bring people together you just need to trust and that is easier said than done - I know it took me 33 years to learn to trust the Lord! Just hold on to Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your way acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight."