I have grown to like eHarmony, especially when compared to the other sites-which are magnets for liars, idiots, maggots, sickos and--did I say--liars, and despite the negative reviews about the site. I have been on eHarmony for about a year and although the layout of the site has improved slightly, I'm not thrilled about navigating around it. I lucked out and got a GREAT deal on the price (obscure email special last year offered the service for $13/month auto-renewing on my CC), so cost makes it worth hanging around a little longer.

At first, I was upset that there wasn't more matches, but someone said that you must read what Dr. Warren has written and I did and it all made better sense. PLUS, you have to evaluate why you are looking for someone online. You have to be willing to be patient and willing to know EXACTLY who you are inside and where you are in your relationship-readiness. You also have to be prepared to be open-minded about who you may be matched with. I was a few months out of a divorce when I joined and I was not desperate for a man PLUS I was coming to terms with who I was and what I wanted in my next potential mate.

I got a little frustrated with the matches at first because I was used to dealing with guys who looked a certain way tall, cute, ripped, whatever. But because I realized the kind of long-term relationship bad luck I had in the past with allowing myself being with guys for each other's looks, then I humored being selected by other traits. I am a little embarrassed to admit that it's been tough meeting a guy shorter than me or totally not who I would have gravitated to unless they were a professor for one of my grad school classes.

But I've been meeting them, rejecting them, being rejected by them, finding out they have some lower-drama issues early on---- and it's been MUCH better than bar-club-gym hopping, which I HATE (leave me alone when I am on my stomach on the leg curl, would you??). Some of these eharmony guys have been REALLY nice, and I never would have given the time of day in my vain reality.

I tried other sites in the meantime, so- called "selective" sites like Perfectmatch and black tie singles, but there are SO MANY LIARS and GROSS men who MISREPRESENT THEMSELVES so badly (I am beginning to think that they honestly don't know they are misepresenting themselves). These overzealous doofuses don't know what FIT means (if you have a double chin, you are NOT FIT) and they don't express themselves clearly (you want a woman who is attractive and intelligent and is professional, but WHY, when YOU look like a SLOB and a TROLL, you are EGOISTE, drink and smoke way more than "rarely" and you are not "FIT" like you say you are and you are UNEMPLOYED--often marked "other" under profession? Please.

I believe the successes are more genuine on eHarmony, cuz you cut out a lot of the fake, freaky-deaky jerks out there. GUYS, if you want a really want a great babe you connect with, take the time to do the eharmony questionaire, even if it takes you a few days--I know I had to stop and take a few breaks. There are some of us who look like models on eHarmony, but I think even if you don't get a model, you can get a lady who can really dig an HONEST guy she can like you for who you are inside. Isn't that worth paying for, especially when you look back years from now??

Last words--if you are in the right mindset and are patient, eharmony is not that bad.