I rated eHarmony two stars because I think they are on the right track. They were fairly responsive to my concerns and I felt they cared for the most part. But the system simply did not work for me, and it cost more than most dating sites.

Personally, I am very intrigued by learning about personality types and how that knowledge can be applied to relationships. Once I found out about eHarmony, I was really excited and signed up immediately. However, it wasn't to be. I am just ending my third year with them, and will not be renewing.

During the firs two years I went for several stretches of 3 to 4 months with no matches. The eHarmony support staff told me that "it takes time, etc." and that I should think of expanding my search criteria from in my state to nationwide.

I must admit that changing my location requirements helped a lot in terms of the sheer numbers of matches. But this was a double-edged sword. Sure, I received more introductions, but the process of communicating with them made me realize I have a great job and a great life in AZ, and I don't want to move. The same went for the women. So, even though I had more matches, they have proven to be just a waste of time.

I understand that eHarmony is supposed to use 27 variables to find the right fit, but almost every one of the 41 matches I received over my three years was totally not what I'm compatible with. I counted them up; 34 of my 41 matches were super-outgoing, life-of-the-pary type women. Nothing personal, but in a relationship, I dont' get along with those types. I fit mutch better with quiet, introspective women. When I contacted eHarmony, they assured me that their system works and that, "it takes time, etc." I suggested that possibly my profile test may have been inaccurate, but they resisted allowing me to retake it. I was going to shut down my account and open a new one with a totally new personality profile test, but I decided that three years was enough. Forget it.

Finally, I think they changed their matching formulas last year. It seems as if the criteria has gotten a lot broader. Maybe there were too many people complaining about not getting enough matches. I'm not a big guy (5ft 6in), and this past year I've been getting matched with women who are 5'8" to 5'10". In addition, the age range has increased dramatically. All I know is that these things never happened during my first year.

I actually made it to the communication stage with six of the 41 matches. I closed 16 matches and 19 women closed out on me. That's pretty even, so I don't feel I was being too picky.

One woman had some potential, but we both had just started new jobs and neither of us were able to move across the country. What do I have to show for 3 years and a fair amount of money? Communicating by email with six women, one in-depth. No relationships. Not even any dates.

In two months, I've started more actual communications through fusion101.com than in my entire three years with eHarmony. Surprisingly, the women seem to be no better or worse matches to my personality than what was found through eHarmony. I'll see how it goes.