OK, I'll 'fess up, I've never been on eHarmony. But I came here to read the reviews and they're pretty bleak. But I must respond to "Chris" of PA.

You want to know why I look for "fit" women? First, because I'm fit myself. The woman who has me will have a fit partner (and all that entails). Why shouldn't I have the same? I work hard to stay fit and a woman who is with me benefits from that. I deserve as much myself.

Second, someone who is fit and works at staying that way is generally healthier, will live longer, will have lower medical bills, will recover more quickly from illness and injury, and will become ill less often. I have these benefits myself. Why wouldn't I want a partner who has these benefits from being fit too?

Third, being and staying fit requires intelligence, perserverance, and dedication. Fitness is not just a reflection of the physical health of a person. It also reflects upon what's in their hearts and minds.

How does a man looking for a fit woman differ from the height requirements that some women have? Easy. Height has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. It's programmed into your genes. Now there may be some people who are programmed to be unfit/fat, but not that many. (Look at a photo of a crowd taken in mid-twentieth century America. Not a fatty among them. It simply can't be argued that in less than two generations a "fat gene" spread through 40% of the population.) Fitness, getting there and staying there, takes work, intelligence, dilligence, discipline and sometimes guts. It also takes self-respect and a sense of self-worth. (Aren't you worth keeping in shape?) So a person's fitness level tells me something about them as a PERSON, beyond what can be seen in the physical. A person who is short (or tall) can't do anything about it. People who are not in shape CAN do something about their condition.

Lastly, you made the jump that many people make when you surmised that someone looking for a fit woman would be satisfied with looks. Far from it. Guys like me are looking for looks (very subjective, you might be surprised at what I consider attractive) and EVERYTHING else. I wouldn't give the time of day to a fit, beautiful woman who was selfish, mean-spirited or otherwise not a good person. (FYI, Pamela Anderson is not on my list of women I consider attractive.)