Having tried a few internet dating sites, and even some of the non-internet based ones, I can say eHarmony was the only one that seems like it was a worthwhile effort. All too often I'd pick one who wouldn't even have the decency to reply back, or have the attitude that if you didn't look like Tom Cruise then you aren't worth much. Then I tried eHarmony. Granted, it's not for everyone, but it was well worth the effort. The personality profile it produced was spot on, and it lets you get past the more meaningful things first. I communicated with my match for about 3 weeks before we met, but after 16 months we only continue to get closer. If you want to meet someone based only on a photo and what they think they are, use match.com. If you want to find someone based on much more meaningful criteria, use eHarmony. If you have the patience, it will certainly pay off. I was a member for 6 months and had over a hundred closed matches before I found the one I love.